A letter to Rubi.

I am writing this message because i love you. More than anything else on this earth. And i have spent days and nights worrying and wondering about how you are going to fare, and fit in this new world you have been suddenly thrust into - the pseudo-adult life of tertiary education. When i first read your entry ( and I have read it a few time since ), i tried to remember myself at your age. It may not seem like such a hard thing to do, since it was only two years ago! But my mind has changed at a terrific pace since then, and i hardly recognise the person i left behind anymore. Some of my decisions and actions at that time may have seemed puzzling, even idiotic to you, as they seem to me now. This is because i functioned on the assumption that values like love and honour and truth had no place in so dark and devious a world that i had discovered outside our home. How i had come to that conclusion is not important anymore, as i have discovered that world a false one. But i worry that you may lose yourself in that same lie, and that it may swallow you.
I am not saying that you will repeat my foolish decisions. I am saying that i intend to do everything in my power to help you make the right decisions. So i have written this thing about relationships, in the hope that you will easily come to understand something that it took me great pains to learn.
Don't fret about relationships that don't last. It is in the nature of things to change. Sometimes change is good- and you grow together, sometimes not - and you go separate ways. You will be suprised how many people say the same thing- that they can't seem to find a friendship or a love that will last a lifetime. You must understand that you are not the only one and there is nothing wrong with you.
Some friendships will be casual ones where you say hi and bye and smile and forget. Some friendships you will feel secure and comfortable in, and will want them to last forever. But things may change, people may change and you may go your separate ways. And at some point in time your paths may converge again. But remember, you will never walk the path you choose alone. There will always be someone else walking the same path, and you might just become new very good friends.
Appreciate and respect the people that are worth it, but be careful of giving too much. Sometimes we take for granted the people that give us everything. If times change and your friends are still people worthy of your love and respect, then go on and give it. If not, wrench yourself away. Dont sink with the ship.
Dont become disheartened if you see relationships that dont seem to last, or people who are terrible, even evil. In fact, I thought for a long time before deciding to write this message. I did not want you to become jaded and think that love and friendship is worth nothing if it does not mean forever. I have met people who have walked that road, and it has broken them. They become so convinced that they do not see the true love that they have. Remember that no matter how things change, a person worthy of your love and respect will always impart the same to you. They will love you, respect you and look out for you. If they do not share these values with you, forget about them. They are nothing but opportunists and parasites, looking for their next meal.
When the veil of childhood has been lifted from your eyes, and you look upon the world for the first time in all its terrible beauty, remember that it is always the small black dot that you see first on the white sheet of paper. Keep true to your conscience and your values, and you will soon find that darkness retreats from you, and those that share your values will come to your side. And always remember, come hell or high water, I will stand by you. Even if you ask me stupid questions and call me a gibu :)